Happy Mother’s Day!

Some beautiful quotes to share on Mother’s Day…   Making a decision to have a child – it’s momentous.  It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.  – Elizabeth Stone   Mother’s hold their children’s hands for a short while, but their hearts forever.   – Unknown   The [...]

Decoding Each Family Member – The Nine Traits of Temperament

I recently had the opportunity to present to a lovely group of parents from Deep Cove Parent Participation Preschool on the topic of Decoding Each Family Member – The Nine Traits of Temperament. We now know that individuals have their own unique temperament and it works much better to understand  a person’s temperament  and work [...]

SETting Limits – How to Be Kind and Firm

Although we all flip back and forth between being a Jellyfish parent, Backbone parent and Brickwall parent (Barbara Coloroso’s terms), setting limits can sometimes take us back to the default of a Brickwall parent “You do it because I said so!”  Since, our goal is to be a Backbone Parent (for as much time as [...]

Are You Inadvertently Reinforcing Misbehaviour?

To understand how to address misbehaviour, we need to be familiar with the progressive 4 Goals of Misbehaviour according to Adlerian theory:  Attention, Power, Revenge, and Assumed Inadequacy (as mentioned in an earlier article.) The biggest mistake is to immediately react to the misbehaviour and not pause to collect our thoughts, or consider the feelings behind [...]